Knowing good from bad

Encourage good behaviour by giving feedback to your child. Explain the difference between good and bad behaviour, tell your child what you like and use praise and encouragement to reward good behaviour.

Your toddler is learning social cues and acceptable behaviour from you and the people around them, so it is important that you explain how your feel.

  • If they hurt you, say ‘ouch’.
  • Use ‘I’ statements, for example, ‘I don’t like it when you pull my hair’, to encourage empathy.
Tell the truth

You should lead by example and teach your child the value of honesty, rather than punish their untruths.

Be clear, specific and reasonable with instructions so your child understands exactly what is expected of them. By explaining consequences, your child will have a better understanding of the world.

Remember, your attention is a reward for your child, so avoid giving attention as a result of bad behaviour.

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Published — 30 August 2016 Last updated — 14 November 2016

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